The Abundance Manifesto

Many people believe, that our capacities for love, intimacy, and connection are finite, that there is never enough to go around, and that if you give some to one person, you must be taking away from another. But these beliefs can be challenged! We know that for example: having a second child doesn’t usually mean that a parent loved the first child less. But it’s hard to undo these cultural beliefs that were often acquired during childhood.

Many of us learned to think this way in childhood, from parents who had insufficient affection or attention for us, so we learned that there is only a limited amount of love in the world and we have to fight for whatever we get, sometimes in cutthroat competition with our siblings. (The Ethical Slut, page 28).

Having an abundance mindset is the belief and worldview that there IS enough love, sex commitment, nurturing, and support to go around. That love and companionship are abundant and boundless 💖 This can be applied to romantic love, but also to many other types of kinships and situations!

The Abundance Manifesto:

We want everyone to be free to express love in every possible way. We want to create a world where everyone has plenty of what they need: of community, of connection, of touch and sex, and love. We want our children to be raised in an expanded family, a connected village within contemporary alienation, where there are enough adults who love each other, so there is plenty of love and attention and nurturance–more than enough to go around. We want a world where the sick and aging are cared for by people who love them, where resources are shared by people who care about each other.

We dream of a world where no one is driven by desires they have no hope of fulfilling, where no one suffers from shame for their desires or embarrassment about their dreams, where no one is starving from lack of love or sex. We dream of a world where no one is limited by rules that dictate they must be less of a person than they have the capacity to be.

We dream of a world where nobody gets to vote on your life choices or who you choose to love or how you choose to express that love, except yourself and your lovers. We dream of a time and a place where we will all be free to publicly declare our love, for whomever we love and however we love them.

Huge shout out to the book, The Ethical Slut, (page 294). Most of this text is from there! ❤